The relationship between a couple is a complex and ever-changing process. It is both rewarding and at times distressful. Most couples who come to counseling explain the marital dissatisfaction in terms of the pragmatic issues which usually describe the surface manifestation of the problem while a deeper emotional current runs unnoticed. That is why more is needed than teaching problem solving, effective communication, and conflict resolution skills , although inherently helpful, will not be enough to increase marital satisfaction.
In my practice, the work begins with a detailed assessment of the couples’ relationship including the quality and style of communication, level of intimacy, sexual satisfaction, significant and influential events in their lives, their degree of psychological flexibility, and roles and responsibilities in order to find the strengths and challenges of the relationship. Next, in a collaborative fashion, I help couples formulate their goals in a clear and objective manner. Finally, I help partners adopt effective strategies to promote positive change and let go of the repeated patterns that have caused distress and stagnation in the relationship.